Is It Possible to Not Change A Thing And Still be Happy?

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I know of many people who set strong goals to reach over the years. For example, they’re aiming to have more money, to improve or change their house, to live in another country or to have a better job. And I’m here, wanting to keep the same house, the same job, the same life, in general. Of course, I’d like to have more money to invest and to travel more often. We set some goals this year to try to reach that faster. But that’s about it. I’m happy with what I have.

Don’t you want a new car?

Unless the one I’m done paying for breaks down, no, I don’t. My 2009 all equipped one suits more than my needs.

Wouldn’t you like a bigger place?

I have more than enough space. If I really had to change something, I’d take a simpler house. However, I want my house to be the reflection of our lives. Currently, it is filled with toys, diapers and children noises. It will surely turn out into something else in a couple years. We are planning on repainting the house though to refresh it a little and we might have to change our kitchen counter in a couple years. But that’s just a really inconvenient choice we made during the building of the house.

As for the other material things, I don’t really wish for more unless something really useful breaks, like the car, the fridge, etc.

But I mean, don’t you want to discover the world?

Yes and no. I mean, yes, but I don’t necessarily want to visit all countries. And, I enjoy the feeling of going back home too. Maybe just as much as I like the feeling to go somewhere else. I want to travel, but I think we already live in the best place in the world for us. The fact all our family and friends are here very much contributes to that feeling I must admit. Still, I like our four seasons (even though winter is discouragingly long this year), I like the spectacular views of lakes forests and small mountains we can still get not too far away. And I like most of the lifestyle here.

Okay, but, come on, everybody wants more money!?

If it means working long hours and having less time for my family, then, no, I don’t want more. A little extra money would be nice to save and invest more and to worry less about unpredicted expenses. Other than that, I don’t want more. But I do want to manage our money wisely. I want my family to be debt free as fast as possible while still having some freedom in our lifestyle. That means some sacrifices and efforts, but working for something also is a good feeling.

 

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Everytime I hear someone saying how much he’d like to change jobs or to live somewhere else or to have this or that, I get the feeling I’m an outsider. I find it sad that so many people are not happy with what they have. Yet, I admire those ready to make great changes when unhappy.

Am I naive? Do I lack ambition? I’m wondering, is it possible to not change a thing and still be happy?

 

I don’t think I lack ambition. I want to be better and stronger in everything I’m doing. I might want the same job for a while, but I want to rock it! As a freelancer, I can also adapt my job as I go and make it evolve.

I challenge myself on many other aspects as well. For instance, I’m working hard for a couple months to reach the physical state I want. Not much to do with the scale, rather about my body capacities. I’m also asking a lot of myself in regards to my parenting skills. I’ll never be a perfect mom, but I want to try and be the best I can.

Also, as I wrote on Everyday Minimalist, researches demonstrate happiness is found in experiences rather than things. This is what I want to focus on: experiences rather than changing superficial things.

I might be naive. I might read that post in a couple years and laugh. But presently, the reasons I mentioned above are why I do think it is possible to not change a thing and still be happy. I’m planning on letting time leave its traces, its learnings and its experiences, but to link them with strong and solid roots.

 

Do you think I’m naive?

What would be the changes you’d like to make?

 

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