Women who save are sexy

According to an ING survey, women who save and are frugal are seen as sexy, but not so for men.


  • 61% of men think frugal women are both smart and sexy compared to 44% of women
  • 33% of women think frugal = stingy compared to 20% of men
  • 17% of women think a frugal date is boring
  • Women are twice as likely to be annoyed with a partner who spends too little on them
  • Majority of men & women (68%) agree that women are better at handling finances
  • 39% of women women are less likely to give up shopping and chocolate to eliminate their debt
  • 30% of women are more upset about gaining weight than accumulating debt (27%)
  • And for men, they’re more upset about gaining debt at 34% than gaining weight (24%)
  • More than 60% of Americans think that men are better investors
  • Less than 13% of Americans are confident in their own investing abilities
  • 50% of Americans are more intimidated about investing than by doing their own taxes, their in-laws or handling technology

Thanks to Lekker Leven Met Minder for this article: “ING DIRECT USA Survey“!


I find a guy who can be financially independent to be very attractive (like BF).

I am not talking about being a millionaire or having tons of money, but more of having the right money mindset:

  • He knows what a budget is and follows one to some extent
  • He isn’t cheap
  • He likes to spend his money but only if it won’t mean more debt and if he can afford it
  • He can live below his means
  • If he has debt, he’s working out of it with a plan in mind
  • He knows how to save and invest his money
  • He doesn’t freak out or stress about money
  • He focuses on what is important (experiences and food :D) rather than image & spending
  • He has the same money values as I do, and can offer sound opinions when I ask
  • He isn’t lazy and will do what it takes if times get rough
  • I’m an equal partner in his eyes and am part of the budget
  • If he makes mistakes, he learns from them
  • Is interested in personal finance and money in general (Note: I have my own Library page now of recommendations)


As if we didn’t need any more proof that just because you have money doesn’t mean you’re rich or smart enough to manage it, this post from Smart Money: Going Broke After Having Millions – How One Family Lost It All, made me re-commit to my budget.

59 year old Nick Martin teaches grape growing and winemaking at a local community college, and his wife and their two children now try to get by living in a modest rental home on a combined $34,000 a year.

They aren’t living the high life, but it wasn’t always this way.

In 1998 Nick received a $14 million dollar inheritance, $10 million dollars after taxes.

What did he and his family do with their newfound wealth?

They did what so many folks who find sudden wealth do, they started to spend their money with wild abandon.

[For Example] Mr. Martin treated his wife, Kate, to a birthday weekend at the Waldorf-Astoria, with dinner at the “21″ Club and a $7,000 mink coat.

ORIGINAL ARTICLEFamily’s Fall from Affluence is Swift and Hard

Smart MoneyGoing Broke After Having Millions – How One Family Lost It All

Came at an opportune time to for me to read, especially after my nasty November spending recap (ugh!).

It always boils down to these same, very sexy values:

  • understanding your money and seeing the big picture of where it sits
  • spending less than you earn
  • saving, saving, saving
  • being mindful of your spending
  • not being extravagant, or indulging by showing off

What do you think about “frugal” values in a partner?

Are they sexy or a Turn Off?

About the Author

Just a girl trying to find a balance between being a Shopaholic and a Saver. I cleared $60,000 in 18 months earning $65,000 gross/year. Now I am self-employed, and you can read more about my story here, or visit my other blog: The Everyday Minimalist.