Methinks so.
A ex-reader who wrote in a comment and told me that even though I warned everyone I would be ranting in a post, he was to become an ex-reader because one of my former rants from almost 2 years ago or more turned too hormonal for him to stomach.
(I can respect his opinion & decision even if I don’t think it holds any merit seeing as this is a personal blog talking about life with a bit of money talk thrown in here and there and I am not forcing anyone to read it.)
But I am more interested in the language he used.
When a woman rants, she’s called hysterical or full of hormones (like yours truly).
When a man rants, he’s a ballbuster or a aggressive [insert expletive here].
My real question is why are the words for women so soft and STUPID?
I’d rather be called an aggressive ass than a hysterical woman. It makes me think of some helpless, stupid woman who can’t control how she feels, and trust me, I don’t think of myself like that.
I can go into major rants that are uncontrollable and full of anger or frustration, but I’m not hormonal.
I’m just angry or frustrated, damn it!
But can’t men be sensitive and emotional too?
Why don’t we ever blame men ranting for just having too many hormones? We know they have them by the bundle.
So readers I ask you:
Have you ever called a man who was ranting in a post as too sensitive, too hormonal pile of emotions?
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We still live in a sexist society. This post alone would sent me off on a rant. I also get flipped by "you are being emotional" when I am angry. Well, of course! What do you think you are being when you are judging me?! But "emotional" became a dirty word in our society that is used to describe women when they are upset; as if anger [used for men] is not an emotion…
i am with you on this one. Oh, and I do tell men that they are PMS-ing when they complain and ramble on.
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Oh I agree. Emotional = dirty word, rather than just saying you\’re angry, or frustrated or upset.
Hmm hormonal is quite a harsh word. I've called my BF hormonal lol.
I have never called anyone hormonal or on their period. I guess.. it\’s because I don\’t think I act very differently when I\’m supposedly full of raging hormones. I think part of it might be a learned, societal thing, to fall on those hormones as a crutch for behaviour.
Oh gosh don't even get me started on how much I hate when men say we're being hormonal for all sorts of reasons!$! My boyfriend recently made the mistake of saying "maybe it's because you're on your period" and I just went off! lol. Clearly men do not at all understand what that means, or why it's so insulting to basically imply that once a month, we're just psychotic and everyone should understand that. And like psychsarah said above, it's just a way to discount your behavior or somehow explain it away in a manner that doesn't make it anyone else's fault. How convenient!
Oh I SO agree with both of you.
That\’s what I JUST wrote above (I\’m going down the comments and replying now). I think a lot of it is a crutch to explain your behaviour. I understand if it plays a role, but every month? All the time? Sounds odd to me, but then again I am not someone who is prone to that.
Thanks for the link love! You are the best.
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I've never though of anyone being hormonal when they rant. Heck knows I do that on a daily basis (though I try to stay away from doing it on my blog… generally :P). In my experience though, as soon as I (as a woman) would get frustrated and throw out an annoyed remark or two, a lot of guys would start to point out "I knew it! You've flipped out". Now I'm not sure about THEIR definition of flipped out, but I consider "flipping out" a full on screaming-fest. And I wasn't screaming 🙁 My most recent remark was something like "Don't you think you're being rude?" and I said that in the calmest possible voice. No trace of screaming at all.
Maybe they have this preconceived notion that whenever women are angry, they instantly go into fighting mode (preferably with another woman), and there's: CATFIGHT! Ugh! So when they're deprived of it, they still feel the need to somehow egg us on? Meh dunno. Remarks like "oh you must be hormonal" annoy me 10 times more, than whatever I'm actually annoyed at atm.
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Flipping out for me, is definitely a full on screaming contest. I try not to raise my voice at all, but sometimes emotions get out of control.
Here's a good book for your readers to try and understand gender differences (that aren't necessarily that different). It's The Mismeasure of Women by the author of Mistakes Were Made (but not by me) – Carol Tarvis is an awesome author. http://www.amazon.com/Mismeasure-Woman-Carol-Tavr…
It seems that blaming women's hormones for normal emotions – like anger – or sadness – has become more common and popular over the years – is it real, or is it society and the pathologizing of women and their bodies? And we do it to ourselves too. We're not trying to keep our families together, we're codependent; we're not angry, we're hormonal; we're not kind of worried about juggling family and work, we're afraid of success…
I do it myself in some of my language – comments like "squeal like a schoolgirl" or "PMS rant" (when I don't even experience PMS and don't think I squealed like a schoolgirl even when I was one) which seems kind of bizarre to me. In person, I don't do this – yet in my writing, I do. Weird. We've come a long way baby – but still have a long long way to go.
Perhaps we could go back to a more traditional time and just burn you at the stake for being deviant and not behaving like a proper young lady…
Thanks for the book recommendation.
I never thought of myself at hormonal at all, which is probably why I was even more amused/surprised by the choice of words. Perhaps other women do use that language, but I\’ve never done it.
I\’ve never blamed anything on my hormones, seeing as I don\’t get those nasty cramps women do (never have) and if I am really upset or angry.. it\’s because I\’m angry.
I'm all about sharing the love! Thanks for the shout out!
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Any time 🙂
Thank you for the link love! It makes me feel so happy! Must be my hormones. 😉
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You\’re welcome. At least your hormones are working for you.
Yes I actually have. I work in the construction industry (currently the only woman on staff) and I often say to the guys, 'Stop acting like a princess' or 'stop whining and get your big boy pants on'. My all time favorite one (I've only needed to use it twice) is, 'I don't know what kind of mommy issues you have but right now I need you to get over them so we can complete this project.'
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Oh the mommy issues one is good. But have you ever called them out for having too many testosterones?
I think it might be different if you work with only one gender all the time. I do too, being the only woman in this particular area most of the time, with other women gravitating towards other areas.
Well, I'd never say that to his face :)…I find it interesting that any emotion that a woman shows (anger, sadness, frustration) can be called "hormonal." Whereas with men, only if they are being mopey and emotional can we then throw it back at them. But if they're on an anger or frustration rant, then that's just normal and they don't really get called on it. That's just kookiness.
(Thanks for the link too!)
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Exactly my point. We don\’t call them \”hormonal\” when they\’re angry, even if hormones are not a female-specific word, its colloquial usage is quite clear.
Any time. (re: link)
He sounds like a jerk. You're human. When guys do it it depends if its for valid reasons if they're just venting then they're human, if they're being jerks then they're jerks no matter what sex they are. To stop reading because you have human moments sounds dumb. No one is perfect 100% of the time.
A lot of bloggers keep venting off their blogs, but you know I bet they vent to their bf, gf, wife, husband, and other immediate family members. Venting on your blog is seen as a taboo. Its seen as not professional but I think its cool you show us your human side. I find it funny that he stopped reading because he read something you posted from 2 years ago.
Its like he's holding a grudge because you had a human moment 2 years ago. Its just weird. If you've moved on then he needs to move on too.
Oh yeah for sure. I\’m not concerned about losing him as a reader because I like writing about personal moments, ranting, venting and being \”unprofessional\” and \”not classy\”.
This is not a professional blog, I\’m not sure if anyone noticed but my avatar is a blonde showgirl in a corset top. 😛
If I had a professional blog, I wouldn\’t be ranting as much or writing about Godiva chocolates. But then again, it works for some — Penelope Trunk, anyone?
It's an easy insult to throw at a woman that allows a man to completely discount her thoughts-she's just hormonal, she doesn't know what she's talking about, blah blah blah… It's BS, but try to convince a neanderthal of that, and he'll just think it to himself anyway. Thankfully, many men do not buy into this BS. I try my darnedest to ignore that boobs that do.
*snort* I love that you used the word \”boobs\” to describe a man 🙂
It's just someone with stock phrases by gender, that's all. And anyhow, what'a rant between friends? When Bill starts one of his, I don't call him hormonal, I just call him 'boring.'
Oh that\’s a good one.
When I rant, I wish people would understand that it's coming my deep emotional sensitivity that can only be displayed in an outward expression of rage and discontentment! I'd go have myself a good cry right now if I weren't SO FREAKING MAD!
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Oh hush you. 🙂
No double standard for me, I've called guys that were ranting and raving hormonal and girly to their faces. I've asked, "Are you on your period?" If they're going to do it me, I do it right back. Not that I think it makes it right, don't guys know they're throwing napalm on the fire by saying, "You're being hysterical, emotional!" when you're having a normal, non-over-the-top, justifiable bit of anger? Grrrr…
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Well just a little bit of anger to me, seems so strange to be misconstrued as a result of hormones.
We\’re all a pile of hormones, but why are women the \”sensitive\” ones? I don\’t blame anything I get angry about on my hormones.
Oh god, I HATE that. I don't have PMS, I'm not hormonal, I'm not hysterical, I'm just an angry bitch who has no problem letting people know what I think. I wonder if you're ex-reader realizes how big a misogynistic ass he sounds like.
Guys do have hormonal fits (referred to as 'testosterone poisoning') it's just they do more 'macho', physical, stupid things rather than complain. And guys also do get slapped with that whole 'thinking with their penis' thing.
Well I\’m sure he\’s of an older generation. No skin off my back 🙂 I just was curious about the choice of words. Hormonal = Angry.
That\’s true. There\’s the other side where men are being told off for using their \”other\” brains.