A secret look into one of these elitist, pompous Gentleman’s Clubs

Precursor Reading: The Idiot wants to join a Gentleman’s Club

As mentioned in the post, BF was actually part of one in Europe when he worked for a company.

So I grilled him a bit on what it was all about, and this is what he’s said.

What it is:

A pompous, “secret” club so that high ranking executives and others who want access to them outside of a business environment can do business with each other.

(Yes, MEN. No women — very sexist Old Boys Club sort of BS).

It’s a “casual” social networking circle that you pay to gain access to, so you can go to the clubhouse, and meet directly with the movers and shakers of the industries who are going to possibly give you their business.

What it isn’t:

A place where men meet to go see strippers or go to dinners but not to actually network with people who are the real decision makers.

This is all about serious business, and serious networking with the privilege of going directly to the higher-ups that you (may) normally not have access to in a business environment.

They don’t wear costumes or do weird rituals either.

Who pays for it:

Not the employee, that’s for damn sure!

Membership is around $5000 – $10,000 a month per person. Sometimes more.

The corporation ponys up the membership fee, which is the reason why it’s so expensive, and also the reason why no one can just join the club off the street.

Who can join:

You have to be recommended and personally vetted by an existing member.

They then go through your credentials consisting of these three main factors:

  • What school you attended
  • What company you work for
  • What position you hold at the company

If you don’t have a job, or if you have a job at a company that is fairly new or small, you don’t get in.

If you didn’t attend the right schools, you don’t get in.

Note: Unlike in North America, as I understand it the school you attend is not just for the name or the networking.

It is an actual filter for managerial positions, and if you don’t attend certain ranks of business or engineering schools, you have no (real) hope of ever becoming an executive.

They will look at your resume, go straight to the school you attended, and decide on that basis. Period.

I am sure there are exceptions, but this is apparently for 99% of all cases.

It’s because to get into those schools, you have to really fight for a spot based on your individual test scores (and not at all by your family’s name or social status, because everyone is given a number). And only the cream of the crop can get in.

In Japan, they do the same thing. If you haven’t attended Todai (Tokyo University), you will have to really fight, and perhaps give up on ever becoming “somebody”.

They don’t accept new members easily, even if you have the cash to pay twice what they are asking.

The motivation for them to let you in, is not about the money at all. They couldn’t care less.

They only want to make sure that the club only accepts and has the right people, who are in the right positions, and are real businessmen who are there to be professional, in a more casual, networking environment.

What they do:

They have regular meetings, and everyone just goes there, mills around, eats food, chats, and makes connections to do business.

You basically attend these meetings once a month or more, and then go around introducing yourself to the people, one by one.

As you meet someone “interesting” whom you think you can do business with, and if you both think you’d like to do business together, you exchange business cards and set up meetings with people in their company or with them during business hours.

The executives who are there buying, try to see if they can get a better discount if they talk to the executives who are selling, and vice versa, the sellers try to get more business by making a connection.

That’s it.

That’s what the company pays $5000 – $10,000 a month for. 2 or 3 meetings, that can result in millions of dollars of business, in revenues or in savings.

So as you can see, The Idiot wants to join a Gentleman’s Club‘s solicitation of the club, is above and beyond what a real Gentleman’s Club is all about.

Sexist it may be, but it still exists, even today.

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