A lot of you have expressed curiosity about WTF I do for fun and entertainment.
I hate to burst your bubbles, but I am actually really a boring person during the week or on weekends right now during winter.
REALLY BORING. You might even snore while reading this post.
I am a stay-at-home-FB mainly for 3 reasons:
- I don’t have very good friends here in Montreal. Er. No friends at all, really!
- No one visits 🙁 Only my sister and a friend on business visited ONCE.
- It’s cold outside. Very cold. Windy. Freezing. Icky. And I’m a big winter baby.
While BF was on contract (meaning, @ work):
He only worked for a month or two, and in the meantime while he was at work….
- I stuffed my face with Mini Eggs and butter fudge
- Started up another blog (The Everyday Minimalist)
- Scheduled posts on all 3 blogs up until end of April to end of September 2010
- Cooked a LOT
- Applied for contracts that are supposed to start in 2010 (we’ll see)
- Did my interim taxes (Gah)
- Thought about the upcoming 2010 and worked out my budget #s
- Organized the apartment (data backing up, organizing clothes, cleaning out things)
- Did all the little errands I’ve put off (calling companies to stop sending junk mail)
- Tweeted.
- Read a lot of e-books.
Now that BF is off contract and with me 24/7
- A lot of couples can’t stand to be together 24/7 but we’re quiet & independent people
- We read books.
- We watch a lot of DVDs and TV series together on our laptops
- We spend time leisurely shopping for groceries and then leisurely cooking
- We do go out occasionally to pick up little things here and there
- ..note, it does take about half an hour for us to get to any major area using the bridges
- Do our own independent thing: surf the net, blog, read up on corporation tax laws
- Discuss. We can spend at least 2 hours talking about a world event or topic because we’re both stubborn-headed mules who refuse to let the other “win”. 🙂
I am out of my element in Montreal
Not being in Toronto near friends or familiar shopping areas is a real money saver.
I don’t tend to enjoy window shopping on my own. I mean, I can do it.
But if I don’t have a specific item in mind, like buying a winter coat, I don’t really enjoy wandering shops and finding items to buy without friends to egg on and enable.
If I had friends here, I’d be going out and spending a lot more. It’ll be hard when I am back in Ontario.
What about eating out or going to the movies or a club?
Oh we see friends (his friends) on occasion.
Mine are all holed up in Toronto. Grr.
And his friends have lives too. So we see them once a month. If that.
We don’t eat out most of the time – only when we travel
….because BF is such an awesome cook who loves to come up with recipes, that we don’t need to.
I am definitely finding that restaurant fare around here is overpriced!!!
Greasy, small portions, cooked badly, bad ingredients… I’ve been disappointed most of the time when I went out to eat on my own, thinking I was missing out on something amazing.
I feel annoyed when I get a simple dish like a breakfast at Chez Cora or something, and it’s costing me $7.99 for a plate of food worth $3.
I only go there when I want to meet with friends and not cook, but specifically with BF, he loves to cook so we stay at home instead.
In Toronto, I know a couple of great, cheap restaurants. Here, not so much. Pirates.
Movies are not my thing.. and thankfully not his either.
I have never liked crowded theaters, people sneezing and coughing, making comments, laughing too loud, munching popcorn like it’s the second coming…
And going to the movies used to be a $5 affair, now it’s $15!!!
That’s just craziness. I might as well buy the DVD.
We don’t go to bars or clubs — I haven’t gone since I turned 20.
I hate very loud music and would rather go to a restaurant or coffee with friends so we can talk, rather than my watching them scream drunkenly at each other (I don’t drink) while perverts try to come up and dance with them.
I don’t see the appeal.
Probably because I don’t drink. I feel like that has a lot to do with going to bars or clubs.
And if I had never found BF at work, I probably would still be single today, surrounded by my fake plush toy cats (I am allergic to furry animals), feeling like a social outcast.
We get our entertainment fix from traveling
It’s our major vice. Traveling.
When we travel to cities, it is non-stop 14 hours of sightseeing, exploring, semi-shopping, picture-taking EXHAUSTIVE-NESS (sp?).
Since we don’t have a lot of money to spend on cabs, or hotels that are smack in the middle of the city, we walk a lot and we take a lot of public transportation to save on money.
Sometimes I dread those trips because I feel like I need to work out and get in good cardio shape before going on one, with the amount of walking we do.
Then when we come back home.. home .. sweet home.. the need to go out late at night with friends or to explore the night scene makes me groan.
Even just thinking of Europe this summer is making me tired.
I have to start doing some light stretching to get flexibility back before we go.
We’re going to Paris and London for weddings, and most of his family and friends live there.
So I am foreseeing spending very late (2 a.m.) nights out at cafes with friends, because he’s going to want to live it up while he’s back home for a while.
Gah.
Generally speaking, we’re homebodies.
No TV at home, that’s true.. but we have the radio (French radio), DVDs and videos.
BF is now hooked on watching Dynasty, which means I too, am watching Dynasty and following the trials and tribulations of the (sometimes annoying) Carringtons.
Honestly, in the winter, on the weekends or during the week, I do NOT like to go out.
It’s horribly cold and I hate being cold because I don’t have a proper winter coat to my knees and a hood.
I also don’t need any more temptation to buy anything. 🙂
But in the summer…
We do a lot of activities outside.
We take long walks around Montreal, we spend 4-5 hours biking the trails..
BF is also a budding photographer so he likes to take his camera out once in a while to take photographs.
And we just enjoy the weather for the most part, and I never feel like I want to do “more”.
I feel like I am not missing out on anything in the theatres, movies, bars or clubs.
Been there, done that, kind of hate it.
haha that sounds like me and my bf, we can be around each other for long periods of time, but we can also split off and do our separate things in our apartment, we'll also hang out with our separate friends, come home and things can be fine, its no biggie, I think its great if you can be around someone for a long time without driving each other nuts….
I don't think its boring, I think its sweet. You're so lucky to have found BF 🙂
I tend to force/convince myself to go out in the winter because I feel like I’m “missing” out if I don’t. I really do prefer to stay in when it’s cold.
Summer is a different story-outdoor cafes, parks, biking, ferries, concerts, picnics, musuems 😉 fun fun fun!!!
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Darling you're just like me! I went to club up until probably a year before we moved here … I just lost the taste to go out drinking. It just isn't for me anymore. I don't like going out AT ALL during winter & if Pete takes the van to Pearson, I get really cranky if I have to take the bus.
I'm already cranky as it is because work has little to no heat as it is.
I can soooooo relate to this, especially because I moved to Quebec City a few years ago and I knew no one there. I also spent a lot of my time doing very similar activities.. if only I'd had a blog then, perhaps I would've been far more productive. It is tough being in a city where you don't know anyone.
Have you ever met any of your readers in the city or tweeps?
Nooo… 🙂 I didn’t suggest meeting any readers in Montreal. Although maybe I ought to!
Good point.
Well, if you're boring then so am I:) I also don't have many friends around here with whom I have many things in common, which is another reason I recently started to blog. So that I could say whatever I wanted while not being judged and get feedback from likeminded people! Wish I lived in Montreal so I could pop in with my laptop 🙂
I did wonder tho, how many months of the year do you two work? Seems like you have a lot of free time to do as you please. How nice is that!
LOL we could have a laptop party.
2009 I worked about 1 month. BF worked… 4 I think? Perhaps 5?
It was an unusual year for IT contracts getting delayed until 2010 or cancelled completely while waiting for the U.S. to bounce back.
2010 is going to be a busier year, for sure.
That sounds like my husband and me! We don't really do anything and now that hubby isn't working we spend even more time at home. When my parents offer to take the boys overnight so we can go out, we end up only going to dinner or staying home where it's quiet! There's a lot to be said for quiet time at home without the children!
I like the time to be able to organize my papers, do taxes that are sometimes stressful and need chocolate fixes, read e-books, watch videos and veg out
I've started to try and stretch and do more yoga these days as well.
I guess I've just slowed down everything in my life. I take more time to do laundry, not as rushed.. and I take more time to think about blog posts, comments..
I don't and have never enjoyed a packed schedule. It frustrates me because I am horribly punctual and I hate being late just because something ran late. (omg that rhymed)
I'd rather just have one event a day (or per month) and then go back to my hermit-state.
I just moved to a new city a couple of months ago and the combination of lack of good friends (here) + winter means I've been staying in a lot too. I can't wait for spring either – I love outdoor activities but not if my ladybits are gonna freeze! 🙂
LOL @ ladybits.
We really enjoy biking. If it was the summer and we were both off, we went 2-3 hours a day.
That stuff tires you out.
I'm happy to see I'm not the only boring gal around! Of course, I blame it partially on my lack of energy.
Unfortunately, Tim and I do love the movies, but we also have the benefit of AMC passes through MyCokeRewards. (Let's hope they bring the tickets back. They go away from time to time, and it's never clear whether the things will come back.) Still, there are plenty of rewards programs now that offer Regal or AMC gift cards, so I guess we'll find a way.
We do the home DVD watching, as well. Tim plays video games. I've become addicted to Brain Challenge — a version of Brain Age for the PSP. I read a lot. Tim prefers graphic novels but does his bit of reading quite readily.
Tim takes walks to get rid of some of his anxious energy/cabin fever. We do some shopping as necessary (Tim helps me by driving me to most of my errands) and we generally chill out.
As for the friends thing, you should see if Meetup.com is active in your area. My attendance has been very spotty, but I've really loved hanging out with some of the people I've met through it. You go in groups (there are groups for couples, women, men, book lovers, board game players, etc) so it's not as hard to socialize.
At any rate, your life sounds very contented to me. Then again, I'm an admitted homebody. If we had more money, I might want to go see some plays and Tim has expressed interest in the symphony, but otherwise I'm pretty happy just surfing on the internet or watching TV/DVDs.
OO! You reminded me!
I spend HOURS playing stuff like Bejeweled, Cake Mania (LOVE) and Tetris. Oh and recently, finished 100 boards of Mahjong Titans.
I just don't get bored as much as I used to. I like the low stress life.. and like you and Tim, we chill out.
I'm not so interested in Meetup in Montreal to be honest. I think I'll try it in Dallas, but Montreal hasn't been awesome so far 🙂
Reading. Eating. Tweeting. Cooking. Blogging. Surfing the interwebs. Watching TV on a laptop. Sounds like a blast to me.
*high fives*
That's what I'm talking about!
PS I forgot to tell you how much I like the new banner. Super-cute. Happy New Year!
Thank you! I made a couple of them actually , to rotate 🙂 Hope you get a new one on your way back!
Happy New Year!
Not boring at all…I think you're great at coming up with ways to make use of your time that don't involved kissing your cash goodbye. I find it all quite inspirational myself. Once you get to a certain age, being a homebody feels amazing.
I think I reached homebody age at 20. Kind of young, no? 🙂
OMG We have so much… SO MUCH… in common. And you're not boring. I bet we'd have lots of fun being boring together. 😉
No clubs (bleh, hate the crowd), mostly staying at someone's home (I read blogs, he plays video games). But another thing me and BF do is play World of Warcraft. Hahaha sounds like a typical Asian thing to do. We're not hardcore (yet!) about it.
We'd be horribly boring bloggers.
Actually, what sounds like heaven to me would be to go over to another blogger's house (Revanche and I were talking about this) and chill out beside each other with our laptops, doing our own thing.
Hahahah!
I don't play WOW but I used to be really into online gaming. Then I got REALLY addicted and had to quit so I could get a scholarship to college.
But it sure ate up a lot of years. 😛
In all honesty, I'm pretty boring too. We go out and get a bit wild maybe a couple of times a year. Other than that, it's sitting at home, reading/ playing video games/ watching movies or television shows/ studying, and cooking.
Glad to hear I'm not the only one!
I also hate a lot of crowds. It's strange, because I consider myself to be a bit of an extrovert for the most part, but too many people = stress
I was just wondering b/c from my own experience I tend to get depressed if I stay holed up for too long interacting with only 1 or 2 people. Have you tried to make friends in Montreal? For me just going to someone else's for tea is incredibly therapeutic and not at all expensive. I tend to be a homebody myself and have to force myself to get out sometimes, but I do instantly reap the benefits.
I tend to go back to Ontario to see my friends.
I have tried to make friends.. but we just are either in different places (she has a family & 2 kids), or the friendship died (she was a colleague before)… or that’s about it. *sigh* 🙂
I’m moving back this year (to Ontario) so I’ll be all right for friends then.
It’ll be the future move to Dallas where I’ll have to ramp up friend-finding.
I’m pretty much like you. I don’t like to go out in the winter and I hate the night scene (loud music, loud people and smoking… no thanks!).
During the summer I go out a lot and there are always things to do here. In the winter I like to spend my time huddled at home with my dog.
.-= Julie´s last blog ..Outfit 02-01-2010 =-.
In the summer there are TONS Of festivals for free in Montreal. I forgot to mention that we go out a lot and soak up the festivities.
And eat ice cream.
I was honestly just wondering how you have the time to be such a pressence online. You comment on SO many blogs, have 3(!) of your own, update them pretty frequently, have a ton of interesting things on google reader… I’m sorry that the reason is you don’t have very many friends where you live, but I love your comments and your blogs!
.-= me in millions´s last blog ..Last Day Net Worth: December =-.
Hahhaa!
To be honest, it’s during the week that I would be alone anyway because they’d be at work.
It’s the weekends where I’d spend time with them, but I don’t feel sad at all because I’m with BF 🙂
I have all my blogs scheduled to the end of April/September, so I actually haven’t blogged any new in-depth posts lately.. it’s all scheduled stuff going up for the most part.
I should also note that I am told I type freakishly fast. Like 125 wpm they clocked me at? So… I comment a lot but it’s within a couple of seconds.
It's okay if you're boring FB… I mean, it saves you money and as readers we will benefit from you until at least September 2010 for reading purposes. 😉
LOL
That's true. But it doesn't make for a sexy blog.
I talked to my sister last night and she told me: I think I'm getting too old for this
in reference to clubbing, going on a bender for new year's eve.. she totally went all out, as she does every weekend
I'm her total opposite. She has a full bathroom of stuff, with lots of clothes in garbage bags with LOTS of papers flying around, and I'm the other extreme.